Part 2/5: Expanding your dating pool
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After you define your purpose, the next crucial step is to give yourself the best possible chance of finding what you want. This means expanding your search scope as much as possible and playing the numbers game. Make sure you cast a wide net for your search (the wider the better). Below are some non-exclusive steps you can take to broaden your horizon.
2.1 - Be the best version of yourself
One way to attract more quality matches is to be more true to yourself because this makes you more attractive. People in this world find all sorts of different things attractive, so this is a very subjective exercise. So think about how you can shine the most. Some Sapiosexuals are attracted to intelligence, Demi-Sexuals whose sexual attraction grows with an emotional bond (like me), people who find business acumen to be sexy (like my fiancé), and those who find physical fitness the sexiest. What about you is the most attractive? Wherever you choose to shine, don’t be lukewarm about it; be bold and genuine!
2.2 - Challenge your self-imposed barriers
Do you only date people within a certain community, age range, height range, race, or something else? If so, why? Again, this is still a conversation with yourself; nobody has to know about this. Be honest and blunt. Take some time to challenge your self-imposed restrictions quietly. Some might be very necessary to maintain, while others could be discarded. Don’t get me wrong, you are entitled to your preferences; just know that every single one you hold on to will reduce your dating pool. It all depends on what you want and how much you’re willing to adjust.
1.3 - Try online dating
Remember that we’re trying to cast the widest net we can! Online dating can be a lifesaver for introverts. If you resist this idea, know that you’re not alone. Soon, we will have a section dedicated to how we also resisted online dating. I will personally talk about how I had to fight mental blocks, social stigmas, and cultural taboos to finally give it a try. I will also share tips on how I made it feel safer and worthwhile. For now, click here for our subjective review of various dating apps. Check out this story on "Online dating and your self-esteem."
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Bertheves Egersdorf
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